Change – You live and you learn?

Hello Blog – we meet once again!

Its been sometime since I’ve been here, posted a new entry or even just paid attention to my blog. This happened for multiple reasons which I think I need to take some time to explore. I started this blog out of pain and frustration. I had thoughts and feelings that were overwhelming and I needed to get them out. I was in a dark place, extremely lonely and felt like the world was closing in on me. I felt so extremely alone and felt like I had no one to talk to, so what did I do – I started this blog. I convinced myself that it would be healing to get it all out, to find a place (a secret place mind you) where I could be honest, and vent my frustrations away – yet still I cringe at my first ever post, and am somewhat ashamed of the seemingly bitter, childish and naive notion that a blog would help me change the course of my life.

The same reasons I hoped this blog would change me for the better are the same reasons that stunted its growth. My pain reflected in writing, on the world-wide web, for anyone to access, became a source of stress and embarrassment rather than a source of joy and redemption. It became harder and harder to blog because I had only written out of pain or fear, but with time, I chose to repress those feelings and move past them rather than dwell. I could no longer relate with the reasons why I had started and instead chose to neglect blogging and leave it to the brave and the professionals.

However, in just over a year since my last post, I find myself inspired once more to write, to share, to reflect and hopefully encourage. Why? I feel a wind of change occurring in my life at the moment, and I feel like if I don’t listen, if I don’t pay attention to it, I might just miss my moment!

I was recently selected as one of 100 brightest young minds in Africa for 2015! I cant help but smile at the thought it makes me so happy! There is a post definitely to follow on my experience at the Brightest Young Minds Summit, however, its relevance here is that, this was it – this was the shift I needed, had been longing and waiting for to wake me up, reinvigorate my passion for life and just shake me up a bit! Before BYM, I was in a rut, I was coming off a bad academic year, and my confidence was shot. I was living and moving, but I had no purpose. Post BYM, I am still searching, unsure, seeking that purpose, but the difference being, I once again have hope and know that I will figure it out. I am on a journey of self discovery and I am learning to love myself, flaws and all, and as cheesy as that sounds, too many of us are walking around depressed, coming down too hard on ourselves for our mishaps, drawbacks and bad decisions taken.

I walked away from that summit with a renewed vision on what my role needs to be and I would love for you reading this to join me on my journey to figure that out. I can’t promise it will always be exciting and thrilling, I can’t promise it will always be positive, but it will always be real, and it will always be me.

I also want to say a big thank you to Yanginkosi – who I don’t know, have never met, but she commented on my blog with some amazing and inspiring words:

“Hi 20somethingyearoldgirl,

Thank you so much for sharing your a part of your journey… Your story has been nothing short of an inspiration and great encouragement to me. I admire your positive spirit and your sense of ‘purposefulness’.

I discoved your blog through the link you shared on the Mbewu Foundation page and I appreciate the opportunity to develop great friendships of powerful and like-minded women.

I hope to keep in touch, I trust that we could both can learn from each other and inspire each other, but feel free to ignore it if you prefer.

Take care,
Yanginkosi “

It was less of what Yangi said, but more the timing. I was sitting on the plane before we departed from Cape Town international, heading to Joburg for the BYM Summit, when I got the notification. This message came at a point when I was nervous, feeling unsure of myself, lacking confidence even in my selection as a bright young mind, and it just resonated greatly and said to me, keep at it, do the best you can do for yourself and for others and that will be enough. You are enough! Divine Intervention much? I don’t know, but what I do know is I’m smarter than ignoring the signs, ignoring the push to change, so I’m going to take this whirlwind coming my way and i’m going to run with it.

And for when the days are dark, and the mission feels greater than what I feel I can achieve, I turn to Nayyirah Waheed


To 23-year-old me,

– it wasn’t easy, you were broken down, you lost in love, you saw failure in your academics, but guess what, you overcame it all and YOU have the power to realise positive growth at 24! It’s still hard to say that 24 but embrace the growth, embrace the time passed, and get up everyday to make you proud, for you are a POWER, a FORCE, and you will become the thing you were meant to be!